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  • So, let me unpack what happened, from my point of view. I’m not complaining or anything, just pointing out how it seemed from my end.

    I made a comment that I personally didn’t like the show because of how many times people around kept saying I was like the main character.

    You replied directly to me implying that nerds should like the show because it normalizes dating them. (Which I agree is a good thing.)

    I replied to say that doesn’t apply to me, and I’m not sure why it was relevant to my comment.

    Finally, you left a comment to call me names.

    Do you see how that entire interaction makes no sense from my side of things? I said that I didn’t like a show, and you inserted yourself into the conversation to complain that hot women should want to date me because of the show. Then, when I said that had nothing to do with what I was saying, you insulted me.

    So, like, why?













  • Wes_Dev@lemmy.mltoMemes@lemmy.mlImpossible
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    2 years ago

    I know this is just a meme, but mini rant time here.

    “Free speech” literally just means the government can’t arrest, censor, or penalize you for just for the things you express. Of course, there are exceptions for public safety, fraud, etc…

    If Musk loses advertising revenue, that is the advertisers exercising their free speech in a free market, and deciding who they associate with.

    These crybabies like Musk are upset at having consequences, and throwing a tantrum about their freedom of speech is an intentional red herring and attempt to recontextualize reality so they end up being the victim of some ephemeral bully.

    The richest and most powerful people on the planet are not being persecuted.

    They are just not used to being called out on their bullshit and are too weak and immature to accept being told they are wrong sometimes.




  • I’m just now catching up on this thread. I honestly don’t understand what you’re talking about. Nazis are bad. War criminals are bad. Sexual assault is bad, and perpetrators are 100% in the wrong, now and forever. Some things are very clear, and some things are nuanced. That’s just life.

    Morality isn’t a free-for-all, and I don’t think anything I said would have suggested otherwise.

    The reason nuance is important, is because we get actually get Nazis and shit if we make everything an absolute. I’m not advocating for anything goes, I’m saying that some things are complicated and simple answers don’t always work. How people use humor is one of those things that can be complicated. I know dark humor definitely helps me cope with and overcome my trauma when I’m in a dark place. It also helps me bond a little bit when I meet someone else will so uses dark humor. It’s okay if that’s not the same for you. People are different.

    I’m not angry or trying to be mean or talk down or anything like that. I also don’t automatically think you’re a bad person, even though I feel like that insult was uncalled for. And I know some of the other people browsing here were kind of assholes, so, I’m sorry about them.

    Anyway we don’t need to continue talking about this if you don’t want to. The entire thing is kind of stressful for me, so I might not check my messages for a few days anyway. If you do want to talk more, I’m open to that. But if you’re just going to be rude, I’ll probably not respond.


  • I just now came back to this thread and started reading. I was avoiding it, because honestly it was intimidating when I suddenly had a bunch of replies about something I knew might be controversial.

    I don’t know what you’re talking about with Nazis and shit, but I guess I’m about to find out…


  • Wes_Dev@lemmy.mltoMemes@lemmy.mlThat's an oddly specific phobia
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    2 years ago

    Hey there stranger.

    I can 100% understand where you’re coming from. It’s okay if you don’t feel comfortable with this kind of humor.

    I’m not going to touch on what topics or humor are appropriate in what places, that’s a big conversation with very few black and white answers. Please just keep in mind that some of us use dark humor as a way of coping, of reducing the emotional strain by making light of our trauma in a safe way, or by using humor to generate empathy in others who might not have experienced the same trauma. Humor doesn’t have to tear things down, it can bring people together. I also don’t want to touch on the “rapist shit” comment, so… I won’t.

    To anyone else reading, please try to be a bit more understanding when people politely ask you to chill. It’s usually not their business, especially in public, but please don’t immediately get defensive. I have the right to walk down the street screaming at people, as an extreme example, but no one would defend me if I was doing that and someone else asked me to stop. Most people are automatically aware of unwritten social norms and stuff, this is just part of that compromise we work with every day. Sometimes, you should ignore the person asking you to tone it down. Sometimes, you should tone it down.

    I usually don’t subscribe to the “everyone is right” BS, but I think it’s true here. There’s no bad person in this, just a difference of how people process things.



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